My 15 Relationship NEVERS and a TIP

Sometime last month, I managed to attend a relationship coach session. She taught us a lot. We had input from a few couples too. I agreed with most of the thing. Disagreed on a few of course. I managed to get some points I would like to share. I strongly agree with:

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  1. Never accept a man’s proposal to start dating or get married made over a phone
  2. Never leave your personal items in a man’s house the first time you visit
  3. Never have sex with a man you intend to have a future with on the first date, or second and neither the third
  4. Never allow a man to hit you. Women are supposed to be protected not assaulted . In the same measure , women should respect their men and not provoke them too much . All parties should learn on use of a very simple word, * I am Sorry* .
  5. Never allow a woman to stalk you and yet take her to the alter. Insecure women are very hard to handle . Help her seek help before commitment
  6. Never go to a woman’s house the first time dirty and empty handed
  7. Never date a man for years on and you have never seen her friend, leave alone cousin. Same applies to a woman
  8. When he takes you for a first date (he planned everything) , dear lady , NEVER EVER pay a dime. He should do his homework well
  9. Never allow your boy/girlfriend disrespect your family. No matter how bad your family is, blood is thicker than water.
  10. Never give a cheater 2nd chance if you want no future heart breaks. Once a cheater always a cheater. However, if you love someone, be blind to some things that you don’t know. If married, DON’T allow a man or woman put asunder. Stand up for them in public (ask Hillary Clinton for tips).
  11. Never marry a man who can’t provide. A man should be in a position to give his family basic needs, and some luxury
  12. Never talk a lot of evil about your boy/girlfriend to your family, especially if you are in for a lifetime commitment. That’s how in-laws feuds start most of the time.
  13. Never commit to a man or lady who puts sex before everything else. There is more to sex in life
  14. Never have unprotected sex if you don’t have any formal commitment. Fact is that guys have sex while dating (though not all) . To avoid so much drama (especially when you are being taken for a ride without your knowledge) buy condoms. Its responsibility of both parties and the only method to avoid STI and pregnancy
  15. Talk about tribe, religion, money, family, friends and health while dating. Agree on all that,at least at 70% or more.

Nothing comes easy though, especially for us in the digital generation

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2 thoughts on “My 15 Relationship NEVERS and a TIP

  1. I’m sorry but I disagree with the premise of some of these. For example:

    “Never have sex with a man you intend to have a future with on the first date, or second and neither the third”

    I’d say it vastly depends. As a man, I get annoyed when girls play games. If the connection and chemistry is good, then I see no reason to beat around the bush (hah puns =P ) . The one thing I would recommend is sex whilst sober, as otherwise it can make you do the wrong decisions.

    • Some pple are very good in bed , while others are pretty bad. If you have been having bad sex, good sex on first date can be blinding to other bad attributes of your partner , when bad you may run away and leave a gem . However if it works for you ,its okay .

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